25 Ways to Ask your Kids “So how was school today?” without Asking them, “So how was school today?”

This blog post was written and shared on Simple Simon and Company and it resonated with us. We are privileged to see and teach your children all day, but when they come home to you, they might not be very talkative. We thought this blog offered some great suggestions to get the conversation going!
A few weeks ago I typed up and posted some questions that I was asking my 4th and 1st graders after school….it was something that was on my mind and I decided to share it….I thought maybe someone else might want to try a few of them to…I didn’t realize it would get such a large response…
…I guess we all want to find ways to keep lines of communication with our children open…
I know the questions aren’t perfect. I realize that you need to gauge when the right time to talk to your children is (and 2 minutes after they get home may not be the right time and everyday may even be too often). I am aware that these questions will need to be asked in your own voice and with your own word choice and not mine. And I can tell you that not all their answers will be engaging or lead to conversations…
…but some of them will…and that is why I do it…and will keep doing it…
The other night I ask Simon on his 10th birthday “What are the 10 best/coolest/most favorite things you’ve done in your 10 years?” And he said “#10: Video Games #9: Video Games #8: Video Games #7: Video Games….” and so on.
Not really the response I was hoping for.
But then two nights later we were sitting around and he said he had thought of his 10 things…what 10 things?…the 10 things you asked me about the other night…OH! those 10 things…
And that led to the sweetest conversation about vacations, camp outs, and volcanos.
The conversation didn’t come when or how I had planned but it came nonetheless.
I love talking with my kids and so I will keep asking questions. It works for me and my family…we ask each other questions, we are interested in the answers, we like to talk TO EACH OTHER and I’d want to keep it that way as long as I possibly can.
Communicating with others takes work, it’s not always easy, and I’m not perfect at it. But I’m trying. Heaven knows I’m trying…because….these kids of mine they are worth the work.
So, with all of that being said here are my 25 questions. Hopefully one or two of them will lead you to a sweet conversation as well.
#1. What was the best thing that happened at school today? (What was the worst thing that happened at school today?)
#2. Tell me something that made you laugh today.
#3. If you could choose who would you like to sit by in class? (Who would you NOT want to sit by in class? Why?)
#4. Where is the coolest place at the school?
#5. Tell me a weird word that you heard today. (Or something weird that someone said.)
#6. If I called your teacher tonight what would she tell me about you?
#7. How did you help somebody today?
#8. How did somebody help you today?
#9. Tell me one thing that you learned today.
#10. When were you the happiest today?
#11. When were you bored today?
#12. If an alien spaceship came to your class and beamed up someone who would you want them to take?
#13. Who would you like to play with at recess that you’ve never played with before?
#14. Tell me something good that happened today.
#15. What word did your teacher say most today?
#16. What do you think you should do/learn more of at school?
#17. What do you think you should do/learn less of at school?
#18. Who in your class do you think you could be nicer to?
#19. Where do you play the most at recess?
#20. Who is the funniest person in your class? Why is he/she so funny?
#21. What was your favorite part of lunch?
#22. If you got to be the teacher tomorrow what would you do?
#23. Is there anyone in your class that needs a time out?
#24. If you could switch seats with anyone in the class who would you trade with? Why?
#25. Tell me about three different times you used your pencil today at school.